Stop Wasting Energy on What You Can’t Control
Let’s be real—how much of your daily energy is going toward things you can’t control?
What your ex said.
What your boss did.
The thing that might happen but hasn’t yet.
The past you keep replaying.
The version of you someone else still sees you as.
Now breathe and sit with this:
📊 Research shows we spend up to 70% of our mental energy on things completely outside of our control.
That’s a whole lot of energy burned for zero return.
It’s no wonder we feel exhausted, anxious, resentful, or stuck.
All that overthinking is draining your power and feeding your stress. It’s impacting your relationships, your health, your clarity, and your peace of mind.
But here’s the good news: You can take your power back.
And it starts with letting go.
So, How Do You Let Sh*t Go?
Here are 3 practical (and powerful) steps to stop wasting energy and start living lighter:
1. Ask: “Will this matter in 5 years?”
That moment of pause can save your peace.
If the answer is no, don’t give it 5 more minutes of your life.
Try this:
When something triggers you, before reacting, ask this question.
Breathe.
Zoom out.
Most of the time, it’s not worth the cortisol spike.
Let long-term perspective guide short-term peace.
2. Choose: “I don’t want to be this way anymore.”
Sometimes we keep reacting the same way because we’ve done it for so long it feels like part of our identity.
But guess what? You can choose again.
Change often starts with one honest decision:
“I don’t want to live in reactivity anymore.”
“I don’t want to hold onto bitterness.”
“I don’t want to be emotionally hijacked by things I can’t change.”
That choice cracks open the doorway to freedom.
3. Know the difference between awareness and attachment
Self-awareness is gold.
Therapy, journaling, shadow work—all beautiful.
But don’t get stuck in thinking every issue needs a 3-part backstory before you release it.
You don’t owe your dysfunction an origin story.
Yes, it may have come from childhood.
Yes, someone hurt you.
Yes, the past shaped you.
But at some point, healing becomes a decision to create your future instead of constantly analyzing your past.
Interpretation is not the same as truth.
You don’t have to figure it all out to let it go.
You just have to decide it’s not coming with you into what’s next.
Final Thought
Let this land:
“Change isn’t always about healing your past.
Sometimes it’s about choosing your future.”
So start choosing—moment by moment.
Choose peace.
Choose boundaries.
Choose the present.
Choose your joy over your justification.
Choose your power over your pattern.
You deserve to feel light.
You deserve to move forward.
And you deserve to stop wasting your sacred energy on sh*t that doesn’t matter.
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